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Younger sister with stage 4 breast cancer?

Posted by admin on July 15th, 2011

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Younger sister with stage 4 breast cancer?My younger sister recently underwent a bilateral mastectomy for the breast cancer she has been battling for almost a year. She was stage 4 at the initial diagnosis and is 21 years old. I am 27. I have been having a lot of guilt issues lately. I do all that I can for her but still feel that it isn?t enough. I feel guilt because my fiance and I are having a child. I feel like I cannot truly be happy knowing that she is going through so much. I cry and our family cries all the time when we aren?t around her. She has insisted on living life on her terms! Which I so admire. She lives with her fiance and works part-time as a graphic designer. I just never knew how strong my little sister is! I never knew how tough! I am just sickened by what this disease can do and how difficult it is to handle when it sneaks up on a young woman. Why isn?t there more awareness for young women? Why hasn?t a cure been found? Why is our health-care system so screwed? What can I do for her to show her how much she really means to me without bombarding her? What gifts? What to say? What encouragement? People fall back on religion during times like these and say that G-d won?t give you anymore than you can handle or that He works in mysterious ways?I just don?t see the reason to any of this. Can you imagine being 21 and breastless and not knowing if you will ever bear children or live normally or for how long? I love her so much! And it is tearing our family apart. Any advice? Words of wisdom to those who have been through it? I just have so much guilt and don?t know how to function normally when I am not around her?we haven?t been give a prognosis at all and I am full of hope that we are soon going to find a cure for cancer. I F*#CKING hate cancer. PS: is there any help for student loans for a person diagnosed with stage 4 cancer? I want to help alleviate some of her worries at least?

-AiDYN[[9.26.08]]
My father has stage four lung cancer. I know how you feel. Cancer is so sh!tty.
She?s going through a lot right now. But you should try to treat her normally as best as you can and stay positive! Don?t act like she?s on her deathbed, or she?ll start to think she is and might not survive the fight. Make sure she knows how much everybody loves her, and that you?ll help her in any way possible. Take her out to dinner because once she starts chemo, if that?s what they decide to do, she won?t feel like eating too much. Buy her a pair of slippers and a nice robe, that?s what my dad lounges around in these days. Get her a cute little teddy bear. Offer to go to appointments with her, and educate yourself on everything breast cancer. Always, always be a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. Maybe you could turn your helplessness into helping other women get awareness?

As for her student loans, the American Cancer Society helps my parents pay their bills. They might help with the loans. The website is below, and worth checking out at any rate.

-BSherman
Learn about your sister?s condition, treatment options, and prognosis. Your family has a tough road ahead and information is your best tool. Your sister?s oncologist is the best person to provide answers. Attached below is a link to the Merck Manual?s chapter on breast cancer. It is an authoritative guide to the illness.

Your sister needs to think about her health insurance status, as expenses will become quite substantial. If she does not have sufficient health insurance coverage, then now is the time to apply for Medicaid or other government programs. Contact your state?s Department of Heath and/or talk with her hospital?s billing department to get pointed in the right direction.

The American Cancer Society is a wonderful resource for just about everything now impacting your sister. They have excellent information on their website and offer a variety of programs. Gilda?s Club, named after the late comedian Gilda Radner, is a great support network for cancer patients. (links below)

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